You don’t make excuses. Cold out? Hot out? Tired? Not in the mood? HTFU and get to it.
Right now I am commuting to work about an hour each way. Normally if I want to go to the rock climbing gym, I ride my bike there. If I want to go run with my GF, I ride my bike to her (an hour). If I want groceries, I ride there. Everything I can do on the bicycle I do on the bicycle. I try to NOT drive my van for anything I don’t really need to. But really, you just can’t use any excuses. Current plan is to go home after work today, pack up my climbing gear, then ride to the gym, probably do an interval workout on the way.
As for social activities, my sports ARE my social activity. Easier now that I have become less social (I stopped doing group rides during early Covid). I only hang out with people when I am out being active. I don’t watch TV, I don’t go to movies, I don’t go to concerts, I don’t drink alcohol, etc. Vacations are centered around my activities (I travel about every other weekend).
Things have gotten easier for me over time with lifestyle changes. Several years ago I was riding 20 hours a week, getting a few hours of sleep, getting up early/staying up late to take care of horses (that’s a different story), working OT, and spending time with the wife. But I divorced my ex so I don’t have to try and find time for her anymore (we are still close), she kept the horses (they were hers anyway), I cut back spending on frivolous items so I don’t have to work overtime anymore, and I only date people who are as active as I am.
My GF now has the luxury of her kids being teens and above, so she doesn’t have to watch them constantly. In the past she just had to do all her running when they were in school or at night (with an unsupportive husband). She does most of her activities with me now, though some stuff is solo. She drags her kids out to the gym or out on bikes when she can.