Don’t beat yourself up dude. It depends how old you are on how bad you need to feel about unfulfilled life goals etc. 20, 30, 40, 50 all bring different answers. It also depends on who you are comparing yourself to and how harsh a comparison that is, and what scales you are using.
For instance - i see people out there who are champion Ironman winners as well as being doctors or PhD scientists and seem to be all around impressive human specimens. Probably a good idea not to compare yourself too closely to them.
I tend to compare myself to others broadly in the group i am in: some will score higher on various metrics than me, some lower. Some are richer, some are poorer; some happier, some sadder. Some appear to be sorted but are actually complete c***s, so who really wants to be like them anyway, no matter how much they earn or the size of their office. Some apparently successful people earn a ton and appear to “win” in their career but their wife & kids hate them, so is that a win?
There are many many metrics that define success, and quite far down that list is where you sit on some arbitrary corporate ladder. All that is very much only a thing if you are inside that particular goldfish bowl. If you are not in it then it is invisible, and irrelevant anyway.
On the other hand if you remember the film Groundhog Day, Bill Murray is a bit of a dick at first but then devotes himself to becoming a better and better person and eventually finds his happiness. You get out of life what you put into it. If you live it to the full then you will love yourself a lot more, and put yourself and your loved ones first, not your job - you only need to pretend to do that.
Now, i really should be doing some actual work (something highly paid to do with computers, yawn, but it’s sunny so i’ll go for a nice long run first)… 