Agree with all you said, but neither you nor I (nor many on this forum) are “most people”.
Where I was generally going is that “most people” today are often disappointed, frustrated, or unhappy with their lives because they aren’t getting what they want or something that fulfills them, and that PART of that is because they focus too much on their feelings and too little on what they should be doing to organically/truly generate such feelings.
Put a different way, they want to feel proud of doing something hard, but instead of actually doing something hard they “dumb down” the idea of hard to some pale imitation of it, then claim they did hard so they can feel proud, because what they think they’re supposed to care about is the feeling… and they end up feeling empty.