First off, congrats!
I have another on the way in February, and coupled with active duty service and deployments, it makes it tough to train the way I would ideally like to. I just kind of do the best that I can to be able to compete when time allows.
TL;DR: Early Saturday rides, take Sunday off = most of the weekend with the fam. Triathlete two-a-days: swim before work; try to get the run in before the nanny takes off for the day, or take the kiddo in the running stroller.
After about three months had passed after my daughter was born two years ago, I fell into a rut feeling guilty if I took time to train instead of help my wife or not sending the nanny home right when I got home from work. I wasn’t doing any kind of structured exercise, let alone training or racing, and I was getting stressed out at work - I missed my release. The Bob running stroller was OK; I don’t really like running with the stroller, but it’s a necessary evil as Nate said. (I’ve found it most useful for shorter/easier runs. Daughter has about 1-hour maximum stroller tolerance.)
After many frustrating conversations with my wife, we finally came around to how to help each other out. She plays tennis, and has been able to continue that on a somewhat more limited basis, while I take my Saturday mornings and do my long workouts, usually 2.5-3.5 hours on the bike with a short run after. That seemed to work, and minimize my frustration while providing balance at home. The tradeoff I made was that I worked my training into six days per week, always taking Sunday off (until the final two tune-up weeks before the event). That meant that the family got me all weekend after about 10am on Saturday. That seemed to work well and is something we’ll carry forward whether I race again in 2019 or not… I still want to get some long rides in on the weekends, kiddo permitting.
Otherwise, I found that I had to get workouts in early in the morning, which seems common. I typically chose to swim on those days where I needed to double up. I got over the “nanny guilt”, and she works her full time hours so I can get an hour of work in after work. We’re pretty lucky with her.
This year, I had a successful race at Superfrog 70.3 going self-coached. I wasn’t using TR for that event, but tried it during my final weeks and came around to the idea that the trainer is going to be a life necessity for me if I want to continue training and competing, which I do. I need some focused bike work raising my FTP so I can compete at the highest levels of the AG. Swim is good enough, run is dialed in… and I think TR will bring the bike up to where it needs to be.
With the impending arrival of daughter #2, I suspect 2019 will not be a racing season, or if it is, it’ll be limited. Hence, if I can run through a low-volume “season” of TR and raise my FTP, I know the swim and run will come back as they typically do when the time comes that I can compete again whether in 2019 or beyond. The races will be there.