She is 5’10" 51 years old. She recently retired from teaching elementary school and mother of three. Never an athlete, not competitive, hates to go fast etc…but, absolutely brilliant and a fighter with real word issues. For example, we went through the death of a child; she’s stayed with me through a very turbulent career with multiple cross country moves (USA); was our son’s advocate for years helping him through some serious health issues; she married me 27 years ago!
Through her 30’s and 40’s she was stable body composition and weight wise around 125 pounds. We started counting calories and no alcohol 5 weeks ago (she initiated it I joined in). We have always eaten whole food, limited takeout/dinning out etc…she is bummed that her weight is now 141.
I’ve done this before (calorie counting) losing nearly 20 pounds from 165 to 147 about 10 years ago. I did it when I was injured and the only cardio I did was 15 minutes on a stationary bike 3x/week prior to my PT visits. Point is, weight loss can be done easily with out much cardio.
She is very frustrated and I’m starting to sense she might give up. We walk together; cook together; raise the kids together; travel a bit until COVID…I have remained silent and am very aware how husbands can be not helpful with their “just do it” approach. Husbands can be the absolute worst at helping and I’m fully aware and feel like I’m the polar opposite. I mostly encourage her to stay the course for a few more months as these things take time (IME). Offer insight only when she brings it up. Have never made comments about weight or body comp.
Only meds she takes are for high blood pressure. She just had a full blood work done-all normal including thyroid and negative COVID. Endometrial ablation 10 years ago…
Any females out there who are 50’s and older that can relate or maybe have some pearls of wisdom? Or husbands who have been through the same situation I’d be grateful to read what helped your wife/SO. Best and thanks!